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Permission to be Human
5/20/16
I have had the same message coming to me repeatedly this week and I feel like I need to share it with others. You are Human and it is okay to not be perfect. We all can get into our heads about philosophies, and ideals. We can judge ourselves harshly for failing. Failure is what we decide it is. I keep hearing people express they feel like a failure. So, your job, project, marriage, class, or plan did not work out. You are not getting the experience you expected. You have to make this experience make sense.
What if, instead, you accept the reality your experiencing as the best possible experience for you right now? Plus, you don't get to know why.What if, instead, you look at your choices that led here? Not as a reason to beat yourself up, but as a way to change your experience.
What if, instead, you accepted that life is not always going to be pretty and smooth? That life is rough and ugly often because that is what we need to polish our souls.
What if, with all your spiritual practice, your health consciousness, you work to be aware and focused, you still acted human and experienced life? This life you chose. Accepting your choice, not as a blame on yourself, but as an acceptance of it's Divine meaning.
There are many wishes and prayers you have asked for over the years that I bet now you are glad they were never granted. I understand if you are angry or sad about your experience. You have every right to be. You are a human and your emotions are a part of your wholeness. There are times you are just experiencing life and that is okay.
I love Saturday Night Live! Last Saturday there was a great quote by one of my new favorites on the show, Leslie Jones.
Leslie Jones: Oprah was fired at 23.
Colin Jost: I bet someone is kicking themselves for that.Leslie Jones: No, they were right, because she was not Oprah yet. She was just some 23 year old bitch who needed to be fired to become Oprah.
What ever you are experiencing right now is a part of your journey that is forming you into the best you possible. Stop clinging to what you think that is and let yourself become what that is.
Rebirth
3/15/16
This week I, and many others, have been experiencing a rebirth process. Old physical ailments emerging. Old emotional wounds surfacing. It is an opportunity to look at the past in a new way. It is an opportunity to look at yourself in a new way. What is this pain (emotional or physical) telling you? Please address your medical needs but also listen to what your body is communicating to you. Are you needing to shift your perspective, boundaries, limits, or priorities? I asked the Fairies for a message. They said "stop trying to let go of it. It could be the past or the pain or what you think you don't want. Even that which you label toxic. Stop trying to let go and release it. You are not becoming less but becoming more. Find the way to accept and embrace it as part of the larger you. Then move beyond it. You can focus on one blemish and try your hardest to remove it from your skin, OR you can shift your focus to your whole physical body, the entire skin surface, and realize how small and insignificant it is. These worries, stress, finances, and relationships are the most insignificant blemish on the massive beautiful soul that is you. Stop focusing on the small parts. Stop holding yourself tight and small."
2016
2/10/16
Here we are in 2016. Do you all remember 2008? The Fairies say expect similar mass change BUT not in the same way. 2008 the change was full of fear. This year the change is full of hope. This is the year of building the new structures we have been laying our foundations for. I asked the fairies for some insight and some hope. It seems many are in a tug of war between their fear, depression, anger and their hope, joy, and self worth. This is what they had to say.
“Many of you are taking the risk. It could be a very simple change in your life. It could be a slightly different choice. It could just be taking the risk to hope. The last four years have been scary. The chaos can be terrifying. Yet Humans continue to hope! Your hope is your strength. We want to encourage you to keep trying. Your path may have morphed. Your work may have changed. Your idea of how each project was going to look may be different now. That does not mean you failed. That does not mean you were wrong to hope. It means you are still moving forward. Hold on to your goals and dreams. Keep choosing to be the most amazing being that is you! Look for the fun and joy and the magic will happen.”-The Fairies
The Shootings
10/1/15
I live in the Pacific Northwest and know many people connected and close to the shootings today. I have had many ask for a message from the Fairies about this event and the many other atrocities we are seeing in our world right now. I first would like to say it is our ego consciousness that wants to know the why. We think if we understand these events it will some how lessen our pain. We can never know why or truly understand the “larger reason” for this. You can give it a reason though. You can make this event, and every event you experience that is full of pain and suffering, the reason you will love more. Every time I see an experience this, personal or global, I let it remind me I need to love more. I need to fight against my own complacency. I need to dig deeper for compassion. Compassion for all. These events can trigger our anger. They can make us feel unsafe, afraid, and fill with rage. We can easily jump to blaming others, blaming society, and pointing to the them that caused this. Do not let pain divide you from others. These are the times we must hold each other close. We must say, “I am sorry.”, “I love you”,and “Thank You”. We can look at each other and say “I know you are doing the best you can and I appreciate that.” Most importantly we must let it be a reminder to love ourselves. Do not let your own pain and suffering burn you from the inside till you explode.
This is what the Members of the Fairy Council had to say:
“When the broken parts of society are highlighted Humanity can become scared. It ignites the broken parts that lives within individuals. Many of you run from your broken parts. You feel shame and try to hide them. You think it is what makes you unlovable. The truth is you have no broken parts. The parts you think are broken are your greatest wisdom. The parts you try to hide are your most beautiful. What you perceive as damage is the mosaic you have created from a colorful and adventuress life. The broken parts of society are created from the shame and hiding of the artwork living in each one of you. If you want to shift your reality, and society, then show your artwork. Flash all the people you know daily with it. Hang it on your wall and be proud of the strength you have. Once Humanity has embraced their individual unique parts it heals.”
The Weavers
9/4/15
We, Humanity, have been going through a very intense process. There has been a shift taking place from 2012 to 2016. This shift in consciousness required a lot of chaotic deconstruction of old structures within us and within society. Here we are in the last stages. We are being forced to tie-up loose ends, be pushed off the proverbial cliff, and get the ground work ready. I asked the Fairies for some advice as we navigate these last few months of the shift.
"While you dance through your journey the next few months, you weave your magic through your world. Do not think that anything you do is ordinary or unseen. Do not discount the little steps, and little moments that are happening everyday. Open to your magic spilling out into the world. The amazing creations that come from your soul will be woven into world. We say woven because it is more than just placing it down. What you are doing is effecting the world around you. You are beginning the process of creating the new structures on which your mass consciousness will sit. These structures will come down too some day so do not fret over every little imperfection or worry about the choices you are making. Humanity will continue to evolve and change as you continue to evolve and change. What is important is your intention. Are you weaving in worry and fear or love and joy? Are you weaving with confidence or insecurity? Are you weaving from your core truth or are you still trying to make things look a certain way? Weave from your heart and by next year you will be amazed by the tapestry." - The Weaver FairiesShine Bright!
6/16/15
I have been feeling lost and hopeless this week. I realized many others were feeling the same way. I know that astrologically there is a lot of shifting going on. It seems that this energy is bringing whatever we have been trying to avoid right into our collective faces. I decided to ask the Fairies for some advice and perspective.
“Collectively Humanity is guarded. You try to protect your heart, your true self, and your love from being hurt and rejected. Every Human does this on some level. The energy right now is cracking open Humanity's Heart. The Mass Consciousness is being expanded beyond the need to protect. You must trust to be free. You must be so secure and confident in yourself that you can bare all and be you, no matter who is viewing and judging you. Humanity is being pushed off the cliff into the risk that will make you each individually light up like the stars you are. It is time to live to your full potential. It is time to be you, completely, absolutely, and unapologetically. Open to the essence of your madness because there lies your greatness. Open to the part you don't want people to see or know because there lies your strength. You will journey through all your feelings of grief, pain, and loss, because they are there blocking you from your joy. No more hiding. Be patient and kind and compassionate with yourself. This is a journey. This is a process. Allow yourself to feel your way through it.”
-The Fairies
April Fool
4/1/2015
March made a fool of all of us. Not that we were pranked by the Universe, though it may have felt that way at times. No I am talking about the ancient archetype of The Fool. The one who is open to all possibilities. The one who learns to trust the Universe. The one who sees the illusions and pulls truth from them.
There are plenty of Astrologers out there who can tell you about the cosmic dance that just happened in the sky this last month. There are varying interpretations but the general theme was to let go of your illusions. Find your truth and live it. Things that had been hidden were revealed. What we had tried to deny we no longer could. All of this is still coming to the surface. March was just the cracking open of that shell. The Fairies have said this year is about clarity. Unlike years in the past, this is not just gaining clarity, it is about clear choice.
I see that Universally we Humans go through phases of energy shifts. Yes the energy is always shifting, but there are certain themes that seem to take center stage and move on to the next one. The Fairies talk about this time period between 2012 and 2016 as a big shift in our Mass consciousness. So let's look at this arc.
2012 was the destruction year. We had to see the relationships, systems, jobs, and old ways of operating that no longer worked. Things started falling apart. 2013 was the root pulling year. We realized those structures that were faulty and crumbling were built on faulty foundations. We had to question our beliefs and things we held true. It was the beginning of gaining clarity about those illusions. 2014 was a chaos year. This does not mean it was unproductive. In fact just the opposite. 2014 was the year we sat down and decided who we wanted to be. The last 2 years were about knowing who we didn't want to be and what wasn't working. Now we had to replace that. So we started trying things out. This means trial and error and making mistakes. This means experimenting, brainstorming, and playing around. 2015 brings us more clarity. We are looking at our different experiments and deciding which way to go. This is not about busting through illusion. This about living outside our comfort zone. Pulling back the final curtains that shield us from the truth. This is also making the choice of what our truth is. 2016 is the year we start to see the blossoms of the seeds we planted.
So now that you can no longer hide behind the excuses you use to, what are you going to do? Now that you know who you are and what makes you happy, how are you going to live? These are the kind of questions to be asking yourself now. This is the time we are in.
There are starving children in China.
So often we are told to be grateful through shame and guilt. Think about the classic "Eat your dinner. You should be happy because there are starving children in China/Africa/insert remote country here." Does this make your food taste any better? Now you have to eat with your stomach in guilty knots. "Be grateful for what you have because so many have less. People are homeless and starving." How does my having or not having affect their situation at all? I understand the point. It is a way to shift a person's perspective so they can see the good in their life. It is a way to wake us up out of our own self delusions. That aspect I think is great but I think the delivery needs work. If you are feeling shameful or guilty then you are not truly feeling grateful. Shame and guilt is not humble or humility. Gratitude is about feeling blessed. It is taking the moment to be aware of all the gifts in your life. It is an act of appreciation for the experiences and people you encounter and a focus on abundance. If you are feeling sorrow, guilt, and shame, over what others are lacking then you are not being grateful. This is an act of comparison of experiences and people and a focus on lack. Instead of lack or hard times being your motivation for gratitude think of one joyful, sweet, beautiful, or happy thing, person, or experience and build from that.
"I received that wonderful hug."
"My lunch today was so delicious."
"That tree in my yard is so lovely."
Let these thoughts build and lead you to the next. If you want to help shift someone else's perspective, remind them of something good not something lacking.
The Choice of Victimhood
11/9/16
I have been sitting on this blog for almost a month. I feel like it was meant for now. I hope it helps some find peace today.
My husband got in a car accident again. A pretty bad one though no one was hurt. I got upset and wanted to blame him. He got upset and wanted to blame himself. This is what I see in myself and others often when we are faced with an unpleasant experience.
We want to blame! We want to make someone responsible and accountable so we can find justice. We want a focus to blame so we can find a way to "fix it".
Or we take all the blame ourselves. We think we are avoiding victimhood by taking responsibility but that often takes the form of bashing ourselves. We take the role of abuser and victim at the same time.
You can look for the why or what energy is creating this. Just don't attach the judgement to it. Do not use this to justify your self hatred. This is a gift, not an opportunity to validate that you are a broken individual. Things break. That is life.
A lot of us have a drawer or a shelf we shove broken things. Then one day we fix them or toss them and replace them. When we have unpleasant experiences it is our opportunity to glue something back together or toss it so it can be replaced. That's it. It's the Universe asking you to look in that drawer and deal with some of it before it gets too full. (That drawer being your feelings, old wounds, and often something being triggered by outside circumstances) There is no promise that you only have to fix it once. You might buy six staplers in your life. Does it mean you should be punished for not taking better care of your stapler? No. Staplers break, pens stop working, and tape dispensers run out. We have general maintenance that has to be done on ourselves.
Even if you are showering daily you still have to do your laundry and change the oil in your car. Unless you smashed it into another car like my husband. Then you can take that off your to do list.
As we face an uncertain future we need to accept unpleseant experiences and what we can learn from them. Acceptance is the key to moving forward.
Intense Energies
5/11/16
There are super intense energies present right now. It seems that the feelings many of us run from are now right in our faces waiting to be acknowledge and revisited. These are the feelings that slow you down and hold you back. Give yourself the time and space to visit, feel, process, or do whatever is needed to move through them. It is not anything new. It is not the events in front of you that you want to assign them to. It is inside you.
“You are so busy trying to fix yourself and everybody else that you forget to let go. Nothing needs to be fixed. You are just moving through experiences of your feelings and consciousness. You seek perfection by judging your experiences so harshly. This will just lead to doubt. Instead we invite you to have compassion for everyone including yourself. Compassion steps out of judgement that something is wrong and instead loves what is. Acceptance of the self, others, and the experience you are having is the easiest way forward.”
-The Fairies
Solar Eclipse
3/7/16
The solar eclipse tomorrow is stirring very intense energies. I've read many different perspectives about the energy of this particular solar eclipse but I wanted a direct message from the fairies for all of you.
“There is an intensity in this solar eclipse. It is the hand to push you off the cliff, pull the blindfold from your eyes, and release the sling shot that you have been pushing back on. Many of you are already starting to feel its energy waves but it will take a week for you to really understand all that is transpiring. Stay aware and present. When you are facing your darkest fears, feeling your most broken parts, and gaining that painful clarity do not feel defeated. This is not the Universe taking you down but your Divine self peeling off the layers that hold you back. Find your will and strength. It is not to rise up and fight, but to rise above the struggle and conflict. It is not a test. It is the shift that pushes you into the reality of your path and your next step. Remember that we are with you every step of the way.”
-The Fairies
Accept the road but don't own it
11/6/15
Yesterday I was driving on the freeway and my car started riding really rough. I began to worry that something was wrong with my car. I berated myself for not getting an oil change yet. I worried that something was wrong with a tire. Did I check them before I got in? All this happened in my brain in a matter of seconds. Then my common sense kicked in and I realized the lane I was in was bumpy and full of potholes. It was not me or my vehicle, it was the freeway. Then I laughed at myself and how often I do this in life. I hit a bump, things get rough, and immediately I blame my vehicle (read myself). Really all I need to do is hold steady and proceed forward. Very quickly I am out of the rough patch. I think it is important when you are on a spiritual path to be aware. Especially if you are stuck or keep repeating the same cycles. The trick is to not be so hyper aware that you take ownership of everything. There will be bumps in every path. Accept that it is the path you chose and keep heading forward. You might be surprised at how quickly your path smooths.
Don't Give Up!
9/24/15
We are experiencing a heavy energy right now. We are at the end of the 2012 to 2016 arc. This intensity is building a lot this week. You can point to many reasons, like the eclipses and such. The why doesn't matter. The real question is how can this energy serve you? I am hearing many of my beautiful magical community just wanting to give up. They feel defeated, depressed, and/or blocked. I too have been going through those pointless questions of why? It has brought me every insecurity, feeling of lack, feeling of shame, and memory of failure. I just want to hide under my covers and surrender to a “normal” life. The truth is I need to surrender to my normal life. I need to stop comparing and judging myself. Most importantly we all need to NOT GIVE UP! This 2015 year has been about the deconstruction of the old ways of being. The old structures will fall hard. What you are experiencing is the resistance in you to be your authentic self. It is the resistance that says it is too hard to live a life focused on fulfilling my soul. It is the voice that says your dreams are silly and insignificant. Let my voice be louder. Do not give up! We are shifting the mass consciousness one individual at a time. It is happening. The shift is coming. The truth is, even if you tried to give up, you can't. You are already caught in the magical wave sweeping over the Earth. Stop if you need to. Float if you need to. Please don't close your eyes and forget you are riding it. The Fairies keep telling me this week is going to be full of change on personal and global levels. Don't let these events distract you from your own voice. Stay present in your skin. Let's ride this baby to shore.
It is time to live for you.
7/1/15
I feel like I have been giving the same speech to every client, friend, and relative this last week. So I thought I should share it here too. It is time to stop being small to make others comfortable. It is time to speak up about your needs and YOU need to make sure they get met. That is your responsibility. That also means it is everyone else's responsibility to get their needs met. You can be kind, compassionate, and loving, but not at the expense of your freedom and their's. When you try to "save" others you do not allow them the experience of learning to save themselves. When you do not hold others accountable for their behavior, you send a signal that they can just continue this behavior over and over, or worse, they are not capable of behaving differently. When someone asks for help you should help. This is for real direct asks for help. Not crys for help your perceive from their behavior. As we strive to be limitless beings we must also be aware of our physical limitations and tend to our very real physical demands; financial demands, sleep demands, and demands on our time. As the famous song says sometimes you have to be "cruel to be kind, in the right measure". Sometimes the harsh direct approach is the only way out of a mess you created. Often it is really about the inner choice. Stop giving someone else all the time and energy in your mind. If someone else is what you are thinking about more than yourself and the present, you have given them control over you. You have handed them your power. Start taking it back. Use your thoughts, time and energy to create the amazing things you came to this planet to create. Stop wasting your most precious resource on someone's drama. You don't even have to be confrontational about it. Just start making different choices and, by changing your behavior, the situation will change.
Do not believe all that you see
5/12/15
I asked the Fairies for a message for the month of May. There seems to be the continued chaos that I have been seeing in 2015. I have been surprised by the amount of death and serious illness of those around me. I have also felt an intensity on teh Earth. I thought the many earthquakes in the last few weeks were going to be the release of that energy but as of yet that is not the case. This is what the Fairies had to say:
"There are many extremes clashing right now. It is like Humanity is standing between two very opinionated people screaming at each other. They are exaggerating and trying to use fear to win the argument. It is just a bunch of hot air. What you are experiencing can feel intense and be so extreme it feels crazy. Do not believe all that you see. The energy right now is bringing up fear for the purpose of releasing it. So, when your fear is being brought up, release it. Do not cling to it with worry and create it into being. Just acknowledge it and let it go. Just because something or someone seems the loudest and most prominent does not mean it, or they, are winning. In fact the intensity is because that energy is being released. An easy way for Humanity to release fear, as well as other emotions and beliefs, is through grief. The souls that are choosing to move on and release are giving the gift of release to all those who will grieve them. You can also release through celebration and joy. You will find that you seem to dance between both sides of release. It can feel like you are out of balance jumping between happy and sad. In fact it is bringing you into perfect balance. Allow yourself the gift of release. Please ask us Fairies for help any time you feel stuck. As you dance through this intense and chaotic time you will find miracles you forgot to ask for. Enjoy them when they appear."
-The Fairies
Spring Message from the Fairies
4/2/2015
I asked the Fairies for a message for the powerful energy of this weekend. A fairy dressed like a cheerleader with a clipboard showed up and she meant business.
“This weekend is a portal for shifts. This rebirth process for Humanity is moving to the next level. You now have all the pieces of information you need to make some big choices. The fear is big. The doubt can freeze you in place. The unknowing can make you want to cling to that which has kept you safe but also kept you limited. You are in the time of transition. We encourage you to take all you have been working on and let it bloom in the sun. Stay open to the Universe working in your favor to bring you great gifts. Many of you are feeling alone and isolated. It is time for some reminders to help you move forward on your path and in your purpose.
Let go of perfection. Mistakes are okay. No one is criticizing you as harshly as your own mind is. Take a moment to reflect on all you have accomplished and all the obstacles you have overcome.
Reach out and ask for help. Remember to ask for help from other Humans as well as us and other beings. You cannot receive if you are not open.
Just start. Just do it. Just take a step forward. The timing will never be perfect, and you will never have every resource in place you think you need. Often you just have to show up to make things happen.
Accept you and your life exactly as it is right now. That does not mean to stop working for changes. It does mean you stop resisting what you are experiencing so you can understand it fully and make the right changes.
What you do and who you are is needed. No one else can do what you do the way you do it.
Humanity is shifting the mass consciousness and it is a beautiful thing. It is time for you to shine. Your reality is expanding. You are expanding. Humanity is realizing how limitless it really can be. What do you wish your life to be? Do that. You are not going to replay the past because those lessons are learned. You are not going to sabotage yourself because you value yourself. The universe is working for your highest good, do not fight it on your way there. We Fairies will help you, just ask.”
- Your Spirit Coach Fairy
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